brittany nicole

Happy Independence Day! I’m so excited to be able to spend time with family. Anytime you’re with family, they’re bound to ask if there’s any updates in your love life. I’ll probably be given advice about where I can meet a nice guy and told that I may be being too picky. Im prepared this year to give answers with substance. I’ve been single for 2.5 years… it will actually be 3 years in December 2016. What does that mean for a 25 year old young lady patiently waiting… LOL 😂

1. I can fall in love with God first without any distractions and grow deeper in my relationship, so that I come out stronger spiritually. How can I be setting godly standards for my marriage if I’m struggling to maintain godly standards set for self? 👀

2. I can learn to love myself: flaws and all so that when hubby comes into the picture; I can expect him to do the same. Is it logical to force a person to love something that you don’t? 💁🏾

3. I can experience a newfound freedom without trying to entertain every fine specimen that keeps my DMs popping 😳 (let me stop lying to my readers 😩) I can discover life and work through some personal stumbling blocks. How can I build an empire with my man if I don’t have anything to bring to the table?  🙄

Now how exactly did I go from being #teamtaken since 7th grade (2004) to being #teamfreedom since December 2013? 

I’m so glad that you asked… I was dating for all the wrong reasons trying to fill a void that only God was capable of doing.

I stayed in an abusive relationship for 2.5 years because I’m a hopeless romantic and would wake up everyday thinking today will be the day that his love doesn’t come in the form of abuse. #TryAgain

I stayed in a controlling relationship for 3 years because I knew the first day I met him that he would be successful one day, even though he didn’t have too much going for himself when we first started dating. My thoughts were if I could just prove to him that I’m all in and wifey material, he would lighten up eventually. #TryAgain

I stayed in a fairytale relationship for 2.5 years because we were just minding our own business and people started to hype us up too much by saying we were #goals and we started being just that: a happily ever after fairytale sprinkled with #TheEnd … I was falling for the potential that he carried and kept telling myself that one day he is going to make a young lady the happiest woman alive, until I snapped out of it and realized that the woman wasn’t me. #TryAgain

Well here’s the BEST part about my life now…. 

I’m determined to stay committed in my relationship with God because with him, I don’t have to try again… He’s PERFECT!  

To experience his everlasting love:

1. no abuse has to be experienced: God is love and abuse in any form is NOT! Dont settle, you deserve God’s best… Not the duplicate copy!!! 🙌🏾

2. God is in control but he didn’t create me as a robot, I had to choose to be a willing vessel and do my part in our relationship. I’d like to remind you that God rewards obedience. ❤️

3. Some say life is a fairytale written by God himself. Just remember that God doesn’t make mistakes. God did not send Jesus to die for our sins so that you could proudly be girlfriend/boyfriend #2. I serve a God of order, and if you’re dating someone else’s lover… You need an OUT OF ORDER sign!!! 👏🏾

My prayer is that whether you’re in your season of singleness or not, you’ll continue to seek God first in all things. 

PS. There’s nothing wrong with trying again, but my personal attempts before my relationship with Christ were pointless because God can’t bless what he’s not in the midst of. ☺️

#BNspired2day ❤️😘